Weekend Fun!

It has been a great weekend- we are sad to see it go!  Parker had his first audiology test (ABR) on Friday after failing his newborn screening.  He passed for both ears!  This rules out permanent hearing loss, which we are very thankful for.  They will see him again in 6 months to monitor for any hearing loss due to fluid build up--and probably continue to see him throughout his childhood.  Awesome news-- about time the little man caught a break! 

Friday night, Parker got to meet his friend Colin (who is almost 1!) and we got to have dinner with Kristen and Eric!  It is crazy to think that these boys will be thought of as the same age some day when they seem so different now!  The puppies got a chance to play, too, which Chase really needed.  He has been so much better with Parker than we ever thought he would be! Proud of him!

Saturday was an awesome day too!  We started it off by heading to GiGi's Playhouse for group classes-- we learned a few tips for the next few months from a volunteer therapist and met some more new friends!  I can't say enough good things about our time at GiGi's thus far-- it has been so enjoyable for Matt and I.  I can't wait to go to group play next week-- and am sad that it will be our last week to go because I go back to work.  We continued the day with some house/condo hunting-- we were unsuccessful but it was still fun to bring Parker around with us.  We ended the night with a good nap (hey...the sleep deprived think very highly of a little nap time) and dinner at Bahama Breeze.  Parker was very enamored with a plant at our table, so we think he enjoyed himself too!

Today, we got to have lunch and a trip to the mall with Auntie Morgan.  She showed him one of his prized smiles while sleeping.  Hopefully his social, purposeful smiles will come soon!  

Dear Parker

Dear My Precious Parker,

After such a good day, I have had a moment of weakness again.  In looking at pictures from the 2013 Gala for GiGi’s Playhouse, I got teary-eyed, not out of joy, but out of paralyzing fear and a brief wave self-pity (though they are getting shorter and further between now).  I hurt so badly knowing that people might look at you and immediately pity you and us…and such shame for that pity.  You don’t know any better…you will just know your own life as we all do.  It is your Daddy and I that hold the grief…the grief for all of the hopes and dreams we had for you that right now we think are lost.  I know that soon enough, though, you will show us YOUR hopes and dreams.  Maybe we will be lucky enough to accept them and support them with calm serenity.    

I adored meeting all of the sweet kids at GiGi’s…but that doesn’t stop me from wishing so desperately that you weren’t one of them.  I wish I could be an outsider coming in to volunteer instead of being one of the participants.  I wish I had other babies first that could protect you and spoil you like GiGi’s siblings do.  There are so many selfish things that I wish.

I hope that GiGi’s becomes a place where I don’t feel shame for these thoughts, and where you can make friends in an environment where people aren’t staring or pitying and are just our new normal.  I hope it becomes a place where you gain the confidence you deserve to have, and that Daddy and I gain the peace we need to have.

I am so terrified, but I know in a few minutes I will walk into our bedroom and see your peaceful sleeping face and know that my heart is still full.  I know that tomorrow morning when I am feeding you and you stare into my eyes that I am so in love with you.  I know that my heart will just melt when you have your first definite smile.  And I know that my heart will break when I have to go back to work and leave you with someone else.   These certainties are what keep me going.  These certainties are what keep the anxious worries about your future at bay.  And these certainties are what lets me know that I am your mommy…and no matter what you can and can’t do as you get older, that is a GIFT from God that I will never deserve.  

I Love You More Than Anything...

Mommy

GiGi's

Today was an incredible day...one that I will never forget.  Parker and I began it by going to meet Daddy for lunch!  On the way...I saw a truck with the sign "Holland Special Delivery" on it --and if you've read the Holland story below, you know why that was so awesome.

After lunch, Parker and I went over to GiGi's Playhouse for the first time.  This is a place that has multiple locations across the county and is designed for Down Syndrome support and awareness.  We were immediately greeted with several open arms, smiles, and excited positive attitudes like the people there had been waiting for us.  
It was an amazing experience...talking to other moms who have been through this, and to see their beautiful, thriving children.  Parker was out of my arms within the first two minutes --being passed from person to person!  He got to be on camera, see firetrucks, and snuggle with friends all in one day! 

It was inspiring to meet so many people that are so successful in their lives and are focusing on the positives...the things our children CAN and WILL do, instead of their weaknesses or risks.  We even got to meet GiGi herself, and mom Nancy--who are people that have obviously touched so many lives.

My biggest hope is that Parker and our family can help others the way that GiGi's has already helped us.  At the end of February, GiGi's Playhouse puts on a Gala to support the program--we will be there and are so excited! 

Daycare

Yesterday, I went to visit the daycare center at Sears that Parker will be going to.  I met one of his teachers, and got to meet the other babies that Parker will be with each day.  I stayed for a while, watching the kids and teacher from so many perspectives-- from the standpoint of an observer, an evaluator, a teacher, and a mother.  It is hard to see one person choose the order of who to care for while knowing that your child will be one of the babies crying and waiting at some point.  

The logical educator in me knows that this is good...it will teach him how to handle social situations, get him used to routines, and teach him how to have patience and wait his turn.  But the hormonal, over-protective, anxious mother in me wants to be there for every moment, be the primary supporter for my baby, and give him everything he needs the second he needs it.  I also want to make sure that as his needs become more intense and more specified (i.e. language/development based), there are appropriate plans in place that are being carried out the best they can.  These are my battles, though, not his.  He will be happy and perfect...I am the one that needs to deal with them!

 The teacher I met won't be his primary one, but I still appreciated meeting her.  She was so kind and willing to listen and learn about Parker, immediately wanting to hold him and even gave me her personal email so I can keep her updated on his progress and therapies as they apply to his care.  She began telling me the story about the trip to Holland, and got very teary-eyed --telling me that she is so excited to be with and learn from Parker.  

For a situation that is so hard for me....leaving my baby and trusting someone else to meet all of his needs --special and otherwise, she was exactly what I needed...a kind, motherly person that hugged me when I left and recognized that I was struggling. 

Acceptance

Thank God for people like this... And so glad we have friends and family to protect our little guy from the few mean, hateful people he may encounter.

1 month (5.5 week) Appointment

Parker now weighs 8 pounds 2.5 ounces!  Finally...a robust weight gain.  He is 20.5 inches long-- so no robust length gain.  He is in the 2nd percentile for height and weight-- so he is a little guy, but we are proud of the gains he has made and how much better he is getting at eating!  

Later this month, we will start speech therapy to make sure he keeps eating correctly, and strengthens his mouth and facial muscles.  His evaluators are telling us that he is showing no delays right now and to keep doing what we are doing (even though it will likely not stay this way).  

Now...on to the audiology and cardiology appointments! January....we are ready for you!

Silly Faces!

I Miss Daddy!

Parker missed his Daddy today! Going back to work after the holidays is always a bummer.  I am starting to get very very anxious about going back to work in just two weeks.  

This time has gone so fast....and I know I will miss it dearly when I am only getting to see my little guy a few hours a day.  Here's to trying to enjoy every second of the next two weeks without letting my dread take over!

Parker 1 Month

Parker 1 Month, a set on Flickr.

This is obviously being posted late...but thought we would share the pictures anyway :) I foolishly placed the cake in a place that Parker would be able to reach it...but thought the pictures were too cute not to share!

Hello 2013

Dear Parker,

To think, it was barely over a month ago that you came into this world. Your travel to this strange, unknown world was one that we had been planning 9 months for. It was a roller coaster of a day once it finally happened...and just when we thought the ride was over, the seat-belts strapped us in and we were taken around and around for another several days.

In the short time you've been with us, we've learned so much from you. There is no such thing as being prepared. There is no such thing as perfection. There is no such thing as 'normal.' There is no reason to sweat the small stuff. There is no reason to be afraid of the trivial. Your parents have family and friends that will always be there for you...to stand by your side in any endeavor you may encounter. Some days, news of chaos, pain and loss is all you will hear, but we promise you there is more love in this world than you will ever know.

Our resolutions in 2013 are much like any other resolutions: To be happier, to be healthier, to get back in touch with old acquaintances and be better to the people in our lives. That said, we also have a few set aside just for you as you continue your journey throughout this new year. We promise to give you every advantage that we can in this life. We promise to push you to your fullest potential. We promise to never give up on you and to lead by example...every second of every minute of every hour of every day. We promise to stand by your side and fight for you. We will be your advocates and not only push you out of your comfort zone but we will push every person that you meet to embrace, learn and love. We know that each person you encounter on your journey will be impacted by you. By your smile, your big heart and your unconditional love. We promise this for you. 

We also know that each day will be full of challenges, but we promise to help you rise to the occasion, overcome your hurdles and we promise your life will be filled with success. 

And so we notice now...these aren't resolutions at all...they are all promises. Things that we cannot just try...but things that we must do and will do for you. We know that it is impossible for us to fail in any of these as it has been ingrained in the very fabric of our beings. We have learned from our parents, and so on and so forth. You have been given a gift, being born into a family filled with so much love. Love that has been passed down generation after generation...and there is no way we will let that stop now. We love you little man, with all of our hearts. And while you've been given so many gifts from so many people in such a short time, you have also given us so many gifts back. We look forward to what 2013 will bring for us, for you, and for all others in your life.

We promise to be the best parents that we can for you. Every day is a journey, one foot in front of the other...and we will never stop .

Love you more than anything, love you more than everything...

Mommy & Daddy