Thankful...

This journey is hard. There is no doubt about it. But there are perfect moments of clarity like this one when I am just overcome with appreciation and thankfulness. I have a beautiful boy, a great husband, and family and friends that have held us up in our darkest moments. Right now, no matter what our genetic counseling or my biopsy reveal this week, I feel such honor for being chosen to be Parker's mommy and such love for my little family. Monday morning...bring it on.

Perspective

I have been reading this family's blog and Facebook posts often in the last 24 hours...www.kateleong.com. And for 10 minutes, I have been thinking of a meaningful way to describe it, and have come up empty-- other than that it is a true testament to the fact that a person's writing can be so life changing.

Kate's writing and experience has made me thankful, ashamed, heart-broken, confused, happy -really just a whirlwind of emotions. It has reminded me of the notion that your experiences are relative...and can't be fairly compared to anyone else's. More importantly, it has reminded me that we should always appreciate what we are given, and understand that our journey is our own to cherish, no matter how challenging or painful it may seem.

I am especially thankful that just when I need it most, I am reminded to take life one day at a time, and really LIVE each moment.

GiGi's Playhouse April

As always, GiGi's Playhouse is a cure for a rough week.  Parker and I, along with his daycare teachers, Miss Hilary and Miss Lisa went this morning for the playgroups.  Kudos to them again for taking time out of their limited weekend to come with us.  It is so soothing to be there with other parents and little ones that can all lend each other support and advice.  The therapists that volunteer, Pam and Cathy, are top-notch and so helpful also.  We are again reminded that our children do everything for a reason.  That reason may not make sense to us in the moment, but if we are going to stop one action, we have to replace it with another.  I think that applies to adulthood also.  Such a great morning!

Curve Balls

Sometimes, life throws you curve balls (which occasionally feel like punches).  I'm not sure if they are meant to push you in certain directions, teach you lessons, or just make you more thankful for the calm, happy times.  I always think of the movie "The Adjustment Bureau" where some organization controls your fate, and makes checks and balances to your life events.  There are so many cliches to describe where we are right now..."when it rains it pours" comes to mind first.  We can't seem to catch a break in any aspect of life.  Yesterday, I was told I have a nodule on my thyroid that needs to be biopsied-- a procedure which my ENT said is "not fun."  I am trying not to worry, and pushing it aside until I know more about it.  Between that, Matt's headaches and illness, Parker's pink eye and minor issues, we are feeling a little run down.  

Admittedly, we threw ourselves a little pity party last night.  We went and got sushi and hung out with Auntie Morgan for a few hours instead of doing any of the cumbersome chores we so desperately need to get finished.  It was exactly what I needed...just a break, free of responsibilities and full of snuggles and good company. 

One thing I am so thankful for is that Matt and I have a way of being able to lift each other up when we are down, and oftentimes, when he is having a strong moment, I am having a weak one, and vice versa. He pointed out last night that I have so much to be thankful for...namely the beautiful baby boy in my arms, and our little family.  

So, we will continue to put each foot forward, and take things one day at a time.  We are helping each other see the positives on days that seem to be seeping with tension and fear.  And we are loving our little boy to pieces...because he is what this is all about.

Genetic Counseling

I decided as a child that I wanted to be a mother.  I was always and still am fascinated with babies and pregnancy.  Once you make that decision, your life becomes full of these dreams and expectations you have for your unborn children.  So much time is spent wondering what they will look like and be like.  When Parker was born, we thought we lost a lot of those dreams, but mainly, they just changed.  The end goal is the same: you want your child to be happy. 

Next week, Matt and I are doing our genetic counseling.  This has been recommended to us since we are so young and have a baby with the rare occurrence of TWO chromosomal abnormalities.  This is terrifying to me, in all honesty.  It brings up so many scary questions that really make me test my beliefs and morals. 

What happens if they tell us that 100% of our babies would have a genetic condition?  What do we do if all of our boys would have Klinefelter's Syndrome?  Would we find other means to continue our family?  

The unknown territory and lack of guarantees scare me to death.  To have another baby with the issues that Parker has and will continue to face would be incredibly challenging emotionally and logistically.  At the same time, I love Parker more than life itself.  No condition changes that.

So keep us in your thoughts, and send positive vibes and prayers our way.  We need them!

Whirlwind Week!

Well, I definitely jinxed us by mentioning the ER in my earlier post.  Monday night, we went to a packed ER with computer systems down for updates.  We were there for a total of 7 hours, got Matt some good painkillers, and were on our way.  Every time he gets one of these headaches, I hope that it is the last time he ever has one.  Nicknamed "suicide headaches" --they are painful to watch, too.  Parker was a rockstar in the ER-- he watched everything from the bassinet/stroller, and then fell asleep for the night as usual!  I am SO thankful for that, as in those moments, there is no room for extra stress.  Luckily, noise doesn't seem to affect Matt's headaches, so occasional babbling or crying doesn't do any harm.

So as always, I will hope it his last headache ever, or at least the last one for a few years. 

GiGi's Playhouse 5k

We are so excited to be part of GiGi's Playhouse! On Saturday June 9th, there will be a 5k run for Down Syndrome awareness, or for those of us who are out of shape, a walk.  Additionally, there will be a Down Syndrome Dash after the 5k is over.  

TEAM PARKER

Our goal is to raise $1000 for TEAM PARKER!  We are hoping to get a big team out there with us and walk our little man across the finish line.

Ugh

I knew this time would come sooner or later...the time when Matt gets one of his infamous headaches post-Parker.  It has been a germy week at the Preis house...with no signs of letting up.  It started with Matt getting a cold mid-week, moved on to Parker getting pink eye and being sent home from daycare, to Matt getting the stomach flu and now on to headache-ville.  If we are lucky, we will avoid the ER, or at the very least, make it there during the day instead of our typical 3am visits.  All of it becomes much more complicated when adding a baby's schedule into the mix.

My goal as untrained, unofficial nurse of the family for the moment is to start getting Matt to be as proactive with himself as we have to be with Parker.  Part of the benefit of living in Chicago are all of the resources at our finger tips-- including some of the most well known headache clinics in the country.  I will work on trying to get him there!

In the mean time, we are doing our best to stay healthy through the rest of this cold weather until summer finally gives us a much needed break.

Easter Weekend

We had a great Easter weekend that went way too fast!  After driving home Friday afternoon, we spent the evening relaxing and enjoying each other's company.  Parker was so excited to see his daddy!  Instant smiles!  Saturday, we went with Kirk, Nicole, and Saige (5 yrs. old) to Blues Brothers for a beer event and ice cream.  It was the scene from Sweet Home Alabama...I can picture Reese Witherspoon saying "You have a baby....in a bar..." -but it was fun nonetheless.   Sunday we joined the MacCarthy families for Easter.  It was great to see all of the kids together and to get some adult time in!  Yummy dinners are also fun too!

This week, we are back to reality-- daycare, work, chores...but I love every second of it!

Driving Home

Mr. Parker decided to make the 6 hour ride home from Springboro quite entertaining (diaper blow out).  He was as happy as could be!  It just clearly represented our hatred for leaving, I think!  Heading home after a trip usually means that we are leaving loved ones behind (at least our trips). Chicago has an incredible wealth of resources for Parker and for us, and we are thankful to have 2/3 of our sisters here, but it doesn't negate the fact that being away from our parents and extended family is hard.  

I am interested to see how travel for us evolves over the coming months and years.  Right now, Parker is young and mellow, so he is easy to cart from place to place.  I am sure things will change a bit when he is a toddler, but by then, I am hoping we live somewhere that will be big enough to house guests! 

Until next time, Nonna and Grandpa and Auntie Mal....we miss you!