Parker LOVES Daddy time! They got to read stories and snuggle tonight!
Monday, April 29, 2013
Sunshine
There's nothing like a little sunshine (and baby smiles) to turn a month around! We had so much fun being with family this weekend, and loved celebrating sweet Michaela's 2nd birthday. We started the weekend by meeting a new speech therapist on Friday, which went well (whew!), along with some sweet treats at Anna Shea for Michaela's pre-birthday fun. We highly recommend the salted caramel hot chocolate....yum! 
After a quick pediatrician visit Saturday, we went to Michaela's birthday party --the first no-jacket warm day we've really had in Chicago! Parker got to play with his cousins, snuggle his Grandma, and meet lots of friends who love him. We topped the weekend off with baby Ryan's baptism, and dinner with the family. Parker promptly burped after eating in the most silent part of the baptism...which we couldn't help laughing hysterically about. We are so excited to have the Kelly family near by --we know the boys will be best buddies!
We hope for many more weekends of soaking up the love for our little man!
Friday, April 26, 2013
Our Journey
Even though I have gotten to the point where my emotional, weepy days with Parker are fewer and farther between, every once in a while, I get a swift kick to the heart. Today was definitely that day.
One nice thing about my job that I have never had before is the opportunity to go out for lunch. I decided that it is Friday, nice and sunny, and that I needed a few minutes to myself --so I went to Noodles & Co. I ended up sitting near this man--a young guy, in his 20's or 30's, who very obviously had Schizophrenia or some similar issue. He was pacing the restaurant, obsessively arranging the things on the table, talking to himself, and yelling at times. People were watching him, afraid.
My initial reaction is what led me to shovel down my food, run to my car, call Matt, and cry. My initial reaction was...wow, I am so glad Parker has something visible. I am so glad that Parker has something that people will generally identify and hopefully understand right off the bat.
Some days, my mantra that gets me through the day is....it could always be worse. But how horrible does that make me? To use someone else's challenge and potential pain to make myself feel better. It took the breathe out of me, and I am guilt ridden.
I reminded myself that this man had to have some kind of independence to be at the restaurant alone, order alone, and take care of himself. He was clean and put together, and wasn't in any way hurting anyone else.
I reminded myself that our challenges are our own to face, and while others might have an easier or harder time than us, it is OUR journey that WE own. We make it positive or negative...and we teach the people around us how to treat our son through our actions.
My second reaction to this man was to go and sit with him. Out of fear or scaring him, I didn't, but he will be on my mind for days to come. I hope desperately that he is happy, and that he has many people who love him and have worked hard to help him be so independent.
One nice thing about my job that I have never had before is the opportunity to go out for lunch. I decided that it is Friday, nice and sunny, and that I needed a few minutes to myself --so I went to Noodles & Co. I ended up sitting near this man--a young guy, in his 20's or 30's, who very obviously had Schizophrenia or some similar issue. He was pacing the restaurant, obsessively arranging the things on the table, talking to himself, and yelling at times. People were watching him, afraid.
My initial reaction is what led me to shovel down my food, run to my car, call Matt, and cry. My initial reaction was...wow, I am so glad Parker has something visible. I am so glad that Parker has something that people will generally identify and hopefully understand right off the bat.
Some days, my mantra that gets me through the day is....it could always be worse. But how horrible does that make me? To use someone else's challenge and potential pain to make myself feel better. It took the breathe out of me, and I am guilt ridden.
I reminded myself that this man had to have some kind of independence to be at the restaurant alone, order alone, and take care of himself. He was clean and put together, and wasn't in any way hurting anyone else.
I reminded myself that our challenges are our own to face, and while others might have an easier or harder time than us, it is OUR journey that WE own. We make it positive or negative...and we teach the people around us how to treat our son through our actions.
My second reaction to this man was to go and sit with him. Out of fear or scaring him, I didn't, but he will be on my mind for days to come. I hope desperately that he is happy, and that he has many people who love him and have worked hard to help him be so independent.
Tuesday, April 23, 2013
5 months
Ah! My baby is 5 months old! Every month on the 23rd, I have two distinct moments. The first is overwhelming love and admiration for my beautiful boy (and amazing husband). Parker makes me a better person every single day. He reminds me of what really matters in trivial situations. It is hard to beat his smiles and giggles. 
The second moment, though, is shear panic. Panic... at the thought of him getting older..how selfish! Now, to be fair, I have always been a "baby person." I even though about doing my own infant daycare. But beyond my own ridiculous musings, I feel like the precious months when my boy's life will be easier are rushing by. I am so afraid of his adolescence and adulthood...because I am so unclear on how to support him at those ages. When he is a kid, though still difficult, his needs are definitive...the therapies and appointments are generally automatic.So I resist the impossible urge to reach out and stop time, and instead, try to reasonably soak up every moment. I come home evert night and kiss his chubby cheeks and stare into his sleepy, big blue eyes and just adore him. Happy 5 months little man!
Cake pictures to come soon!
Friday, April 19, 2013
The Dreaded Day is Done!
Finally, this anxiety-stricken day is over. On an awesome note, I didn't end up needing a biopsy, because the ultrasound of my thyroid didn't warrant one. I still need to hear official results after the doctor views my scans, but at least it doesn't mean that my thyroid needs to be removed as of right now. We will see what it is up to after some blood work.
After that, we made our way to our genetic counseling appointment, which has weighed heavily on our minds for some time. We learned some important information! To start, we know for sure now that neither of us are official "carriers" of a translocation (forgive me if I am botching this explanation). This means that no one can tell us that 100 percent of our children will have a chromosomal issue. Whew! That being said, our official risk as quoted by our genetic counselor was 1 in 67, opposed to the 1 in 500+ typical rate. This seems high to me, but it is definitely better than it could be.
Interestingly, Parker having two chromosomal issues (double aneuploidy) does not seem to raise our chances. In fact, it is really the Down Syndrome that increases our chances. Our genetic counselor was able to use her access to medical journals to provide us with some other cases of babies born with Down Syndrome and Klinefelter's Syndrome (a 1 in 25,000 chance for mothers above age 35). This was important to us, because as of yet, we have not had access to any other official information related to our situation.
So, we have a lot of choices to make, though maybe not overnight! Obviously, chances continue to increase as both of us get older. We will need to find a balance between our age and health, and the years between our children. My awesome husband told me to think of it practically...if you took 67 pennies, painted one black, and seen how many times you picked up the black one...it won't happen for us again.
Lots of reading and thinking for us tonight!
After that, we made our way to our genetic counseling appointment, which has weighed heavily on our minds for some time. We learned some important information! To start, we know for sure now that neither of us are official "carriers" of a translocation (forgive me if I am botching this explanation). This means that no one can tell us that 100 percent of our children will have a chromosomal issue. Whew! That being said, our official risk as quoted by our genetic counselor was 1 in 67, opposed to the 1 in 500+ typical rate. This seems high to me, but it is definitely better than it could be.
Interestingly, Parker having two chromosomal issues (double aneuploidy) does not seem to raise our chances. In fact, it is really the Down Syndrome that increases our chances. Our genetic counselor was able to use her access to medical journals to provide us with some other cases of babies born with Down Syndrome and Klinefelter's Syndrome (a 1 in 25,000 chance for mothers above age 35). This was important to us, because as of yet, we have not had access to any other official information related to our situation.
So, we have a lot of choices to make, though maybe not overnight! Obviously, chances continue to increase as both of us get older. We will need to find a balance between our age and health, and the years between our children. My awesome husband told me to think of it practically...if you took 67 pennies, painted one black, and seen how many times you picked up the black one...it won't happen for us again.
Lots of reading and thinking for us tonight!
Sunday, April 14, 2013
Thankful...
This journey is hard. There is no doubt about it. But there are perfect moments of clarity like this one when I am just overcome with appreciation and thankfulness. I have a beautiful boy, a great husband, and family and friends that have held us up in our darkest moments. Right now, no matter what our genetic counseling or my biopsy reveal this week, I feel such honor for being chosen to be Parker's mommy and such love for my little family. Monday morning...bring it on.
Perspective
I have been reading this family's blog and Facebook posts often in the last 24 hours...www.kateleong.com. And for 10 minutes, I have been thinking of a meaningful way to describe it, and have come up empty-- other than that it is a true testament to the fact that a person's writing can be so life changing.
Kate's writing and experience has made me thankful, ashamed, heart-broken, confused, happy -really just a whirlwind of emotions. It has reminded me of the notion that your experiences are relative...and can't be fairly compared to anyone else's. More importantly, it has reminded me that we should always appreciate what we are given, and understand that our journey is our own to cherish, no matter how challenging or painful it may seem.
I am especially thankful that just when I need it most, I am reminded to take life one day at a time, and really LIVE each moment.
Kate's writing and experience has made me thankful, ashamed, heart-broken, confused, happy -really just a whirlwind of emotions. It has reminded me of the notion that your experiences are relative...and can't be fairly compared to anyone else's. More importantly, it has reminded me that we should always appreciate what we are given, and understand that our journey is our own to cherish, no matter how challenging or painful it may seem.
I am especially thankful that just when I need it most, I am reminded to take life one day at a time, and really LIVE each moment.
Saturday, April 13, 2013
GiGi's Playhouse April
As always, GiGi's Playhouse is a cure for a rough week. Parker and I, along with his daycare teachers, Miss Hilary and Miss Lisa went this morning for the playgroups. Kudos to them again for taking time out of their limited weekend to come with us. It is so soothing to be there with other parents and little ones that can all lend each other support and advice. The therapists that volunteer, Pam and Cathy, are top-notch and so helpful also. We are again reminded that our children do everything for a reason. That reason may not make sense to us in the moment, but if we are going to stop one action, we have to replace it with another. I think that applies to adulthood also. Such a great morning!Friday, April 12, 2013
Curve Balls
Sometimes, life throws you curve balls (which occasionally feel like punches). I'm not sure if they are meant to push you in certain directions, teach you lessons, or just make you more thankful for the calm, happy times. I always think of the movie "The Adjustment Bureau" where some organization controls your fate, and makes checks and balances to your life events. There are so many cliches to describe where we are right now..."when it rains it pours" comes to mind first. We can't seem to catch a break in any aspect of life. Yesterday, I was told I have a nodule on my thyroid that needs to be biopsied-- a procedure which my ENT said is "not fun." I am trying not to worry, and pushing it aside until I know more about it. Between that, Matt's headaches and illness, Parker's pink eye and minor issues, we are feeling a little run down. 
Admittedly, we threw ourselves a little pity party last night. We went and got sushi and hung out with Auntie Morgan for a few hours instead of doing any of the cumbersome chores we so desperately need to get finished. It was exactly what I needed...just a break, free of responsibilities and full of snuggles and good company.
One thing I am so thankful for is that Matt and I have a way of being able to lift each other up when we are down, and oftentimes, when he is having a strong moment, I am having a weak one, and vice versa. He pointed out last night that I have so much to be thankful for...namely the beautiful baby boy in my arms, and our little family.
So, we will continue to put each foot forward, and take things one day at a time. We are helping each other see the positives on days that seem to be seeping with tension and fear. And we are loving our little boy to pieces...because he is what this is all about.
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